We all want to be loved and accepted.
Too many mornings, the first thing I do upon awakening is to touch my phone and immediately tap open my email and messaging apps. Then I open up my website management app and look to see how many people read my blog. Then I wander over to my laptop and check Facebook because I want to see who liked my posts from the night before.
All this makes me feel loved and like I really am someone for a while. It makes me feel loved when a friend says something kind in a message to me, when I see that my website receives hundreds of visitors every month, and when I am notified that people Liked my social media posts. But it's never enough and always leaves me hungry for more love, more attention, and more assurances that I am accepted, although it took some recent self-introspection to realize this is what often drives my smartphone and social media habits.
The world tries to tell me that a romantic relationship is the answer to truly satisfying me and making me feel loved, but I'm going to make a bold statement. If I have a husband someday, he is going to disappoint me. He is not going to live up to the ideal I have in my head because he will only be human. In The Hardest Peace, Kara Tippets shares, "No matter how kind and loving the person you marry is, there will always be a void. I often tell my friends looking at my marriage from the outside that, as good as he is, Jason could never cure my loneliness. There are moments and glimpses, but truly the most intimate place in my heart is reserved for Jesus."
That's the answer to my longings–there is a place in my heart that can only be filled by Jesus. I don't have to do anything to earn His love; in fact, I can't. I don't have to worry about being rejected by God because He knows my sinful heart better than anyone, and yet He finds me so precious that He died so that I could become His daughter. As Lysa TerKeurst says in Uninvited, "God’s love isn’t based on me. It’s simply placed on me. And it’s the place from which I should live . . . loved."
So today will you join me in picking up your Bible and remembering what God says about you before you pick up your phone? Will you join me in resting in the love of God, instead trying to fill your heart with things that can never fill the void that only God can?
We are loved by God, and may this truth transform the way we live, think, and feel.